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Am I Over My Ex?

18 questions, about 3 min. Free, no sign-up.

This quiz looks at two things that often move separately after a breakup: how attached you still feel to your ex, and how much your own life has started moving again.

The questions cover everyday moments: a song in a shop, their social media, a casual "hey" after months of silence, your weekend plans, dating someone new. Your answers place you on two scales, Feelings (Still attached or Let go) and Life (On pause or Moving forward).

You'll get one of four results: Fully Moved On, Busy But Not Over Them, Over Them But Not Over It, or Not Over Them Yet. Each one covers what's going well, what's worth watching, whether you're ready to date and practical next steps. There are 18 questions.

Possible results

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  1. A song that reminds you of your ex comes on while you're out shopping. What happens?
    • I notice, maybe smile, and carry on shopping
    • I put my headphones in and think hard about tonight's plans
    • It doesn't hurt about them, but it reminds me how low that time was
    • I'm right back in that time, and it ruins the next hour
  2. How often do you look at your ex's social media these days?
    • Rarely or never. I'm honestly not that curious
    • I've muted them, but I still check sometimes late at night
    • I unfollowed so I could focus on myself, and I don't miss it
    • More than I'd admit. Sometimes several times a day
  3. I still wonder whether we could have made it work. (agree / disagree)
  4. What does a typical weekend look like for you right now?
    • Plans I'm genuinely excited about, with people I like
    • Packed on purpose, so I don't have time to think
    • Quiet. I'm resting and slowly getting back into things
    • Mostly at home, often wondering what they're up to
  5. You hear your ex is seeing someone new. What's your first honest reaction?
    • Good for them. It doesn't change my day
    • I say "good for them" and immediately book three things to do
    • Fine about them, but it makes me feel behind in my own life
    • It feels like a punch, and I want to know everything about them
  6. I've started new routines or hobbies that are just for me. (agree / disagree)
  7. Someone asks how you've been doing since the breakup. What do you say?
    • "Really good, actually," and I mean it
    • "So busy!" and I change the subject quickly
    • "I'm over them. I just still feel a bit flat"
    • I end up talking about them for twenty minutes
  8. Think about the future you'd planned together. How does it feel now?
    • Like a different life. I've got new plans of my own
    • I avoid thinking about it and keep myself occupied
    • I'm at peace with it, but haven't replaced it with anything yet
    • Still painful. I sometimes imagine how it could have gone
  9. I can think about our relationship without it hurting much. (agree / disagree)
  10. After months of silence, your ex sends a casual "hey, how are you?" What do you do?
    • Reply politely, or not at all, and forget about it
    • Act like it's nothing, then think about it all week
    • Leave it. I don't hate them, I'm just protecting my peace
    • Draft five replies and hope it means something
  11. Most days I feel stuck or flat. (agree / disagree)
  12. How do you feel about dating someone new?
    • Open to it, and excited if the right person comes along
    • I've been on dates, but I keep comparing them to my ex
    • Not yet. I want to feel like myself again first
    • I can't imagine being with anyone else right now
  13. If they asked to get back together, I'd be tempted. (agree / disagree)
  14. Something good happens: a promotion, a great result, some big news. Who do you want to tell?
    • My friends and family, straight away
    • My friends, though I also wonder whether my ex will hear
    • I'm pleased, but it's hard to really celebrate at the moment
    • My ex, honestly. They're still the first person I think of
  15. Do you still have their things, or photos of the two of you?
    • I sorted through them, kept a few and let the rest go
    • In a box I haven't opened. I don't want to deal with it
    • I cleared them out early. It helped me start again
    • Some are still out, and I look at them sometimes
  16. I'm looking forward to things in the next few months. (agree / disagree)
  17. Picture yourself a year from now. What do you see?
    • A full, happy life, with or without someone new
    • Busy and doing well, though I'm not sure how I'll feel inside
    • Feeling more like myself, slowly getting there
    • Hard to picture. Part of me hopes we'll be back together
  18. When their name comes up in conversation, I feel fairly neutral. (agree / disagree)